I know I promised more updates but mom life is crazy; and I’m not even back to work yet! We’ve come to a point where Baby Butt can entertain himself for small amounts of time so I should be able to post more. I really don’t have an excuse for the last two weeks except that every time I sat down I didn’t really know what to write. Which leads to today. Why wasn’t I writing about what was leading me to have this time to write? I don’t know how I didn’t think of that until now.
Hands down one of the most difficult and one of the most rewarding parts of motherhood so far have been the mental leaps. We’ve only gone through three and there are many more to come. For those who don’t know a mental leap is a period of time when baby will go through mental development. The timing is the same with all babies, give or take a week. The Wonder Weeks (I am in no way affiliated with this app I just came across it and have found it very useful) is actually a great app I’ve found for tracking the leaps. They use due date to calculate but I’ve found that actual birth date is more accurate for us. Even then Baby Butt is still about three days ahead of each of the leaps.
These wonderful growing periods are marked by excessive nursing, extreme fussiness, and clinginess. There are other characterizations but those are the big ones in our house. During our most recent leap, last week, Baby Butt would just start crying at the top of his lungs for no reason at all. He was dry, clean, full, and a normal temperature. The only thing that would get him to stop was to snuggle. Now I’m not complaining about snuggles, there one of my favorite parts of being a mom, but they don’t help with getting the house work done.
As difficult as these times can be (I am not looking forward to the month long one that is going to happen in December) they are so, so rewarding. After each one you can see the changes in the baby. It’s really amazing actually. When I first found the app I thought it was going to be a crock of shit because people develop at different rates but it’s very accurate. And not each baby will show the same exact skills. So while my nephew at the same leap suddenly found his thumb and toes and was really trying to roll over, he wasn’t using his voice as much. Baby Butt on the other hand found his voice right away and could care less about his thumb. He loves to talk. Especially at night while everyone is trying to sleep.
Smiling was another one. Baby E (Butt’s cousin) started smiling before the typical time. Baby Butt was a late bloomer in the smile aisle. He is doing it tons now, and is getting close to giggling, but he still thinks about the thing that is making him smile pretty hard before he does it. When you stop and think about it though, it makes sense. Baby E has very social, outgoing, parents who wear their emotions on their sleeves. S and I are both pretty serious people. We spent a lot of time hiding our emotions, including happiness. It is really only with each other that we open up. It leads to a nurture vs nature question though. Is Baby Butt thinking so hard about showing his happy emotions because it’s in his nature; something he got from his parents, or is it nurture; something he sees us do and he is already mimicking? I don’t know the answer to this. It seems pretty early for a three month old to be mimicking something like that, but then again babies are a lot smarter than we give them credit for. I digress though, this is not a nature vs nurture post.
The whole point is that dealing with the moodiness in a baby during leaps is difficult and hard work but if you put the time in and wait out the storm it is extremely rewarding. These is definitely a rainbow at the end.